Nov 1, 20201 minLove MultipliedIt is National Adoption Awareness Month. What is it like to love a child I didn’t give birth to? It’s a knock you down, take your breath...
Nov 30, 20171 minNovember 30th, "Adoption is..."I just asked Ethan to fill in the blank and he said..."Adoption is Love". That's right Ethan. Thanks for writing my final post of...
Nov 29, 20171 minNovember 29th, Language*I just reread the following post (the year is now 2021) and I feel a bit differently about some of the "negative" terms above. I would...
Nov 28, 20172 minNovember 28th, PreparationWhat does preparation look like for the adoptive parent? R’s nursery before R. There was no trip to Buy Buy Baby to create a registry. I...
Nov 27, 20173 minNovember 27th, Highs and LowsThroughout the month I’ve been able to reflect on the highest of highs (welcome to the world R!) and the lowest of lows (failed match-...
Nov 26, 20171 minNovember 26th, Adoption in 3 wordsHmmmm. Some ideas: Hard as hell Totally worth it Wide open love My dear R A complex narrative Not for everyone Makes me whole Makes my...
Nov 25, 20171 minNovember 25th, "I was Blind to..."I was blind to how much love and connection I would feel for R' s birth family. I was blind to just how often I would want to reach out...
Nov 24, 20172 minNovember 24th, GriefGrief. Oh boy. Adoption is about love. Adoption is also about grief and loss. I do not know the depth of grief that a birth mother may...
Nov 23, 20171 minNovember 23rd, MythsHere’s what I started to write- Some myths: you don’t have to be married to adopt, same sex couples can adopt, single people can adopt,...
Nov 22, 20172 minNovember 22nd, JourneyWhat a word to think on as Ethan and I celebrate 8 years of marriage today. Happy Anniversary EVA. Oh what a journey it has been with my...
Nov 21, 20172 minNovember 21st, A Message to...A message to all of you. Thank you for reading and responding. Thank you to all of you who have reached out and supported me this month....
Nov 20, 20172 minNovember 20th, WisdomI can’t believe I’m going to write about musical theatre. The truth comes out- I can not get enough of it. Oh my heart. Tonight I saw...
Nov 19, 20173 minNovember 19th, MemoryMarch 15, 2015. A day for the family history books. It was freezing at Broward General. We stood at the glass nursery window and watched...
Nov 18, 20171 minNovember 18th, JoyOh joyful joyful! We spent an afternoon with so many families at the AdoptionSTAR NYC fall gathering. It is a joyful thing to be...
Nov 17, 20171 minNovember 17th, ComfortThe first time around: Wine. Bed. Bath. Yoga. Therapy. Ethan. Show tunes. AdoptionSTAR. Soft clothes. Whiskey. Friends. Sick days. Books....
Nov 16, 20172 minNovember 16th, "I Learned to..."A stream of consciousness on my subway ride home. Halfway through the month. Thank you for reading ;) especially the sorta half baked...
Nov 15, 20171 minNovember 15th, ReadingA Mother for Choco. Not that all families need only mamas (a family with only a papa or 2 or 4 works too)- but here is one book to add to...
Nov 13, 20174 minNovember 13th, EducationTo know R is to love R. To love R is to learn all of him. To love him is to drink in the huge differences between us. Difference is not...
Nov 12, 20172 minNovember 12th, JudgementSometimes I have to remember that I need to keep my own judgment in check. I spent the weekend in the mountains for one of my best...